Sexiness is in the eye of the beholder...

This past week we spent a lot of time on the negative views of women in comparison to men. The word that kept popping up on the women's side was sex object. Granted that being a sex object is demeaning and overlooks the intelligence and competence of women, sexiness however is not a negative attribute to me. Now most people when they hear the word sexy, probaby think of a scantily clad women w/her breast hanging out and legs all exposed. Does sexiness have to portrayed that way? Ok hear me out for a second, my definition of sexy would be a women who is confident enough to know her beauty and not be scared to "hide it" because she's worried about what other people will think of her. Now there's a difference between wearing a super revealing outfit for the sole purpose of getting attention to wearing a form fitting outfit because you happen to be comfortable in your own skin. The latter reveals a sense of power in one self that I think confident and confident = sexy where as the preivous girl probably has a low self esteem and looks for acceptance through the attention of turning heads. Now that's looking at this at a very one dimentional superficial level. Take another example, a women in a position of power at a male dominated profession, she's cool, confident, self-assured; to me this is sexy. I guess society has taken this word and thrown so many negative connotations w/it that it seems taboo to think of it as a positive thing, but I see sexy as a compliment when given at the right moments.