Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Arranged Marriages
How would you like it if your parents had to choose your life partner? As some people believe that arranged marriages are successful, I believe that there could be many disadvantages of arranged marriages. In most of the Middle Eastern countries marriages are arranged by parents or friends of the couple. I think that because countries in the Middle East are not diverse as in the United States is why the divorce rate is so low. Also, the majority of the people follow the same traditions and culture which allows everyone to practice everyday living in the same way. It would be very easy to find an individual not following the norm of what the society follows. On the other hand, since America has a diversity of many nationalities, Asian Americans that practice arranged marriages seem to be unsuccessful? Marriage is a commitment filled with trust, love, respect, empathy, acceptance, and commitment. Love and attraction does not come to a human within one day of just meeting someone you have never known in your life. Usually in the Middle East couples are not allowed to date because it is considered a sin. however in today's society things have changed to a more modernized time where as some parents recommend one to two dates just to get a feel for what the opposite person is like. Instead of falling in love before marriage couples tend to fall in love after marriage because both peoples relation grows and comes stronger. In arranged marriage people go with the mind, information acquired about the person, assuring that a person will be taken care of for life. i feel as if arranged marriages are still being conducted so that the tradition of arranged marriages dont break for the upcoming generations. American born Asian's should not get arranged marriages due to the differences of lifestyles to an individual born and raised in the Middle East. Are these arranged marriages just to keep faith in the cuture?
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I am not totally against arranged marriages, because, even those that are not arranged, there are not always based on pure love; many of today's romance novels deal with marriages of convenience. We’ve all read them: the heroine marries the hero because she needs him, whether for financial reasons, or because her children need a father,there are as many reasons to marry as there are novels dealing with this subject. Yet although the marriage isn’t initially based on love, as readers, we know it’s inevitable that the two are going to fall deeply and in love.
ReplyDeleteCan love grow out of an arranged marriage? Absolutely, and in the same way that love can grow in romance novels from a marriage of convenience. But there’s more to love than finding a suitable match. Love can grow for many reasons, from love at first sight to friendship that develops over a long period of time. It’s impossible to predict whether a union will be successful. The only two people who can make it work are the bride and groom, the hero and heroine of their own story.
I think that arranged marriages are a cultural thing where it is followed because it’s what seen as normal. I’m from India and arranged marriages are a big thing. My parents had an arranged marriage and they still are together after 24 years. I guess it is a part of the way they were brought up. My dad was talking about getting me an arranged marriage and I laughed it off because I know it’s not something I want. To marry a complete stranger I find weird and it amazes me how they were together for that long. Of course an American born person has a totally different outlook on life then someone born in America because there is so much freedom given. I can’t even keep a boyfriend how would I stay with some guy that I don’t even know the rest of my life.
ReplyDeleteeven though arranged marriages are successful they are still sort of fake. i had an arranged marraige and it sucked! you totally beome owned by a guy. and most people just do it to make their parents happy. like why would u wanna spend your life with someone you dont even knw and someone that will not understand you?
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